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I was Catholic onceStep 2 of 7

What may have changed since you left

The music might be new. The words at the altar are almost two thousand years old.

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The Mass · Catholic Central

Give it 9 minutes, then come back and we’ll walk through it together.

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Part of the Mass comes from God and never changes; other parts can.1 One mystery, many forms.2

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Christ Pantocrator, Byzantine icon: Christ blesses with His right hand and holds the Gospel book.

Byzantine icon, Christ Pantocrator, encaustic, 6th century. Saint Catherine’s Monastery, Sinai. Public domain, source.

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All 7 steps in I was Catholic once You’re on step 2
  1. 1. You are welcome back
  2. 2. What may have changed since you left
  3. 3. Hard questions and hurts, honestly
  4. 4. How confession works now
  5. 5. Back to Mass
  6. 6. “Is my situation fixable?”
  7. 7. A simple habit of prayer

Corinth, about AD 56

Around AD 56, St. Paul writes to the Christians in Corinth.3 He reminds them of something he told them face to face: “For I received from the Lord that which also I delivered to you.”4

Then he writes down what Jesus did “on the night in which he was betrayed”: He took bread, gave thanks, broke it, and said, “This is my body.”5

Hold on to that line. You’re going to hear it again.

01The return

Walking back in

ImaginePicture it. You slide into a back pew after years away. You don’t know the hymn. A few responses have new words. The priest looks about twelve. For a second you wonder if you walked into the wrong Church. Then he takes the bread, and you hear it: this is my body.

At every Mass, the priest repeats Christ’s own words and actions from the Last Supper.6 Same words Paul wrote down for the Corinthians.7

“For as often as you eat this bread and drink this cup, you proclaim the Lord’s death until he comes.”

1 Corinthians 11:268

So what can change, and what can’t? There’s a clear line.

02The line

What can change, and what cannot

Worship has “an immutable part, a part that is divinely instituted and of which the Church is the guardian, and parts that can be changed.” Think: the song can change; the Supper can’t.1

No priest or parish gets to remix a sacrament, and not even the Pope can change the liturgy on a whim.9

From the first Christians in Jerusalem until Christ comes back, it’s the same mystery everywhere. “The mystery celebrated in the liturgy is one, but the forms of its celebration are diverse.”2

And the faith itself? That has a guardian too.

03The deeper part

The same yesterday, today, for ever

The apostles handed the “Sacred deposit” of the faith, Scripture and Tradition, to the whole Church.11 And the bishops, with the Pope, are tasked with interpreting it faithfully. Nobody gets to make it up as they go.12

“Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever.”

Hebrews 13:813

So what will you actually notice? A few small things.

04The small things

What you may notice

Confession has several names: conversion, Penance, confession, forgiveness, Reconciliation; the Catechism uses all of them.1415

Some parishes look very different: Eastern Catholic churches have their own ancient liturgies, and the Church holds all lawfully recognized rites to be of equal dignity.10

Mass times, confession times and parish life shift over the years. The parish website or office will tell you what’s current. And if you’ve forgotten when to stand or sit, our In the pew guide has you covered.

The forms may change. The One who says “This is my body” doesn’t.

Your move

Try this, this week

  1. Read Hebrews 13:1-9. Notice the practical advice around verse 8.
  2. Look at the parish website. Note Mass and confession times.
  3. Arrive ten minutes early. Pick up a booklet and look over the responses.
  4. Ask someone after Mass what has changed in the parish. Most people enjoy being asked.

You’ll need

  • The Mass times of a nearby parish.
  • A missal or a Mass booklet, if the parish has one.

Remember The forms may change; Christ does not.

If this is hard

If changes at your old parish were part of why you left, or the new style feels foreign, you’re not alone. Try a different Mass time, or a different parish. A priest can explain what you’re noticing and why.

How to talk to a priest

A question people ask

Has Church teaching changed?

Answered on video by Catholic Answers · Full answer page

The apostles entrusted the sacred deposit of the faith, contained in Scripture and Tradition, to the whole Church.11 The task of giving an authentic interpretation of the Word of God has been entrusted to the living teaching office of the Church alone.12

Only one thing to do

Your one next step

Pick one Mass this weekend and go. Sit wherever you like. If you are unsure when to stand or sit, open the In the pew guide on your phone and follow along.

Open the In the pew guide

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Your real next step

This page can’t give you the sacraments. A parish can.

We’re just pointing. People walk with you. Find a Catholic parish near you, go to a Mass, or just ask a priest for ten minutes. You don’t need to have it figured out.

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Notes

How we know · 15 sources for this page
  1. Catechism of the Catholic Church, paragraph 1205. vatican.va
  2. Catechism of the Catholic Church, paragraph 1200. vatican.va
  3. Catechism of the Catholic Church, paragraph 639. vatican.va
  4. 1 Corinthians 11:23, World English Bible. read the chapter
  5. 1 Corinthians 11:23-24, World English Bible. read the chapter
  6. Catechism of the Catholic Church, paragraph 1353. vatican.va
  7. 1 Corinthians 11:24, World English Bible. read the chapter
  8. 1 Corinthians 11:26, World English Bible. read the chapter
  9. Catechism of the Catholic Church, paragraph 1125. vatican.va
  10. Catechism of the Catholic Church, paragraph 1203. vatican.va
  11. Catechism of the Catholic Church, paragraph 84. vatican.va
  12. Catechism of the Catholic Church, paragraph 85. vatican.va
  13. Hebrews 13:8, World English Bible. read the chapter
  14. Catechism of the Catholic Church, paragraph 1423. vatican.va
  15. Catechism of the Catholic Church, paragraph 1424. vatican.va

Excerpts from the English translation of the Catechism of the Catholic Church for use in the United States of America Copyright © 1994, United States Catholic Conference, Inc. – Libreria Editrice Vaticana. Used with Permission. English translation of the Catechism of the Catholic Church: Modifications from the Editio Typica copyright © 1997, United States Conference of Catholic Bishops – Libreria Editrice Vaticana. Scripture: World English Bible, Catholic edition (public domain), modern verse numbers; Douay-Rheims numbers in brackets where they differ. Early Christian writers: Ante-Nicene Fathers (1885, public domain). Video: “The Mass,” Catholic Central, supporting material, not a teaching source.

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